Desire , is it good or bad.....( Elder Macarius )

Is our desire for a good life a sin? 

How can it be evil when we desire to do good and strive with all our energy to bring it about. Such desire cannot be evil. It only turns to evil when we do it out of our self-gratification, to boost our own self-image at the detriment to others.


Elder Macarius says,

It is nonsense to say that all desire is sinful, that we should never ask God to fulfill our wishes, that we should feebly abandon ourselves to what comes along. Surely to act in this manner would be contrary to reason, to human nature, and to Holy Scripture. Desire is not a sin; only the desire of evil is wrong. How could man belong to the kingdom of the Word, be reasonable creature and free––if all desires were wrong?... You are not a log or a stone; nor were you ever intended to be...

Reference: Russian Letter of Spiritual Direction, p 38

Overcoming pride ( Elder Macarius )

       
We continually hear that pride is at the root of our sinfulness. In God's eyes it is the the penitent sinner that is preferred to the proud person. The remedy to pride is humility, but how does one develop humility?


Here is what Elder Macarius has to say,

Well, acquire this art through reading the Fathers; pitiless self-examination and self-accusation help too; also, making clear to ourselves how much worse we are than others; and refraining from all condemnation of them while we accept all their condemnation of us, as sent by God to cure our hideous spiritual sores.This battle for humility is not an easy one or one that is quickly won. It is not easy to refrain from condemning others while accepting the condemnation that is given to us. We are constantly being tripped up by our passions. A high degree of discipline in life is required. We must always be on the alert. As we progress along this narrow and difficult path we will be tempted to have pride in our progress. When this occurs our progress ends. Our success in life, our well-being at work or in the home, can also hinder us by stroking our pride. Our successes make us feel as if we are in control. The more successful we are in a worldly life it is all the harder to develop humility.


The Elder says,

Humility is the only weapon that wards off all attacks, but it is difficult to fashion, and the art of using it is often misunderstood, particularly by those who live an active life.... Remember always that the whole of human misery is the consequence of pride. Humility alone is the path to joy, the gate to the blessed nearness––the intimacy of God.

Elder Macarius

Just for Mothers

 Your immediate concern should be with yourself. Strive hard to be a Christian wife and a Christian mother. This is not easy. If you do strive for this, you in your world will find as many snares and pitfalls as we [i.e., monastics] do in ours. Yours may be a different kind, but they are no less difficult to evade.
Starets Macarius of Optina

“How can I, living in the world, dwell in the presence of God?” The elder answered” “Do everything as one cooperating in God’s work.” To be a fellow worker with God in the task of marriage and bringing up Christian children is a grandiose and holy role…. All you learn about marriage, all your work for your marriage, is work for the salvation of your children, and this is not something small, but something which is of eternal value.
A contemporary monk

Remember that love of the neighbor is the first work you must strive for. And you do not even have to leave your house to find that neighbor; your husband is that neighbor; your mother is that neighbor; and so are your children.
Starets Macarius of Optina

The question for Christians who are already married and raising children is not: “How can I reduce to a bare minimum my family obligations so as to be “free” to lead a “more spiritual” life?” It is rather: “How should I nurture within my family life my love for God and my neighbor?”
Sister Magdalen

The joint prayer of husband and wife is a great force.
Starets Macarius

Not merely by living with him as a wife will she be able to save her husband, but by openly demonstrating a life lived according to the Gospel…. It is possible in the case of wives to display the same zeal and enjoy the same advantage [as Saint Pricilla in teaching Apllos: Acts 18:24-26]… The display of a grand philosophy and much patience, the scoffing at misfortunes of marriage, and the determination to follow this task through from beginning to end–this is to make the soul of one’s partner to be saved.
Saint John Chrysostom. 

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Temptations and Peace of Mind ( Elder Macarius )

  We all long for peace of mind––a mind that is not continually tempted and one that does not feel bothered by many things. Peace of mind is a grand thing to gain. But, how to gain it? Here is advice from our Lord Jesus Christ

Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me: for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls (Matt 11:29). Temptations play an important role in our spiritual development They help us develop the strength to overcome them and grow spiritually affirming our faith.


Elder Macarius tells us that we cannot achieve peace of mind except by a battling with temptations.


He says,

Our Lord too, fought, suffered, and sorrowed much before the time of His death on the cross. He was reproached, vilified, humiliated, and tempted. And He laboriously built up for us a picture of His own life on earth, which all of us must strive to follow...
When beset by temptations pray for courage and strength to remain firm. remember: there is an eternity.

Reference: Russian Letters of Spiritual Direction, p 84