Ο Θεός να μας συγχωράει συνέχεια, και εμείς...το βιολί μας ( Αγιος Παϊσιος )

Ο κόσμος θέλει να αμαρτάνει και θέλει το Θεό καλό. Αυτός να μας συγχωράει και εμείς να αμαρτάνουμε.
Εμείς δηλαδή να κάνουμε ό,τι θέλουμε και Εκείνος να μας συγχωράει. Να μας συγχωράει συνέχεια και εμείς το βιολί μας.

Οι άνθρωποι δεν πιστεύουν, γι' αυτό ορμούν στην αμαρτία. Όλο το κακό από κει ξεκινάει, από την απιστία.

Δεν πιστεύουν στην άλλη ζωή, οπότε δεν υπολογίζουν τίποτε.

Αδικούν, εγκαταλείπουν τα παιδιά τους ...; Γίνονται πράγματα ...;, σοβαρές αμαρτίες.
Ούτε οι Άγιοι Πατέρες έχουν προβλέψει τέτοιες αμαρτίες στους Ιερούς Κανόνες· όπως για τα Σόδομα και Γόμορρα είχε πει ο Θεός:

"Δεν πιστεύω να γίνονται τέτοιες αμαρτίες, να πάω να δω!"

Αν δεν μετανοήσουν οι άνθρωποι, αν δεν επιστρέψουν στο Θεό, χάνουν την αιώνια ζωή.
Πρέπει να βοηθηθεί ο άνθρωπος, να νιώσει το βαθύτερο νόημα της ζωής, να συνέλθει, για να νιώσει τη θεία παρηγοριά.

Σκοπός είναι να ανεβεί πνευματικά ο άνθρωπος, όχι απλώς να μην αμαρτάνει!

Αγιος Παϊσιος

Προβλήματα μέσα στο σπίτι ( Ἅγιος Πορφύριος )

Για τις σχέσεις του ανδρογύνου ;Πώς να συμπεριφέρεσαι; Τι σου έλεγε ο γέροντας Πορφύριος;

- -Μου έλεγε πολλά . Έλεγε, δηλαδή, ότι πρέπει να συνεννοούμαστε ,να προσευχόμαστε μαζί. Αυτό μου τόνισε πολλές φορές. Η προσευχή πρέπει να είναι κοινή.

Όταν τα παιδιά μου ήταν φοιτητές, του έλεγα ότι προσεύχομαι για να περάσουν τις εξετάσεις. Μάλιστα, μια φορά, ο γιός μου, αν και ήταν καλός φοιτητής, σε κάποιες εξετάσεις δυσκολευόταν τότε μου είπε ο Γέροντας: «δε θα περάσει τις εξετάσεις». Πράγματι δεν τις πέρασε.

Και όταν ξαναπήγα, μου είπε: «Δε θα περάσει γιατί του φωνάζεις και να, ο σατανάς θέλει να κάνει φασαρία μέσα στο σπίτι και είσαι συ το όργανό του. Να μη μιλάς».

«Να σου πω και κάτι άλλο» μου λεγε. «Όταν γίνεται η προσευχή από κοινού, τότε να δεις πως γίνεται το θαύμα».

Και του λέω: «Μα να πω στον άντρα μου, έλα να γονατίσουμε να κάνουμε προσευχή να περάσουν τα προβλήματα;». -; «Σου είπα εγώ έτσι; Εγώ σου είπα να κάνετε προσευχή. Απ'; εκεί και πέρα βρέστε τα μόνοι σας».

- Το να μη φωνάζετε στα παιδιά σας το τοποθετούσε ειδικά στην περίοδο των εξετάσεων;

- Πάντα. Και για τη νηστεία και για την προσευχή και για έξω που βγαίνανε.

- Καμιά παρατήρηση.

- Όχι, όχι.

- Πες μου, κυρία Ξένια, για το θέμα του σατανά, που σας είπε ότι γίνεστε όργανό του κάποτε. Τον ερώτησες τίποτε;

- Έλεγε ότι ο σατανάς δεν μπορεί να βλέπει τις οικογένειες να ναι γαλήνιες και να περνούν καλά και σε συνεννόηση μεταξύ τους. Βρίσκει έναν απ'; όλους, έναν που να μπορεί να τον παρασύρει.

- Έναν ευάλωτο, ας πούμε.

- Ναι. Και σ'; αυτή την περίπτωση «εσύ είσαι», μου είπε. Και για το παιδί του έλεγα: «Αφού τον βλέπω ότι τα παρατάει και φεύγει». Μου απάντησε: «Είδες τι κάνει ο σατανάς; βάζει εσένα να κάνεις καβγά και να ευχαριστηθεί αυτός».

Ύστερα, όταν επρόκειτο να τελειώσει ο γιός μου τις σπουδές του και να πάρει το πτυχίο του, μου είπε: «Τώρα θα περάσει, τώρα θα περάσει είδες τώρα που δεν μιλάς; Τώρα θα περάσει».

Ἅγιος Πορφύριος

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Prayer of the Heart for the Faithful Living in the World ( Elder Joseph of Vatopaidi )

The question is always being asked, "Is it possible for those living in the world to occupy themselves with noetic prayer?" To those who ask we answer quite affirmatively, "Yes." In order to make this exhortation of ours comprehensible to those interested, but at the same time to make aware those who are unaware, we will briefly explain this, so that no one will be placed in a quandary by the various interpretations and definitions of noetic prayer that exist.

Generally speaking, prayer is the sole obligatory and indispensable occupation and virtue for all rational beings, both sentient and thinking, human and angelic. For this reason we are enjoined to the unceasing practice of the prayer .

Prayer is not divided dogmatically into types and methods but, according to our Fathers, every type and method of prayer is beneficial, as long as it is not of diabolic delusion and influence. The goal of this all-virtuous work is to turn and keep the mind of man on God. For this purpose our Fathers devised easier methods and simplified the prayer, so that the mind might more easily and more firmly turn to and remain in God. With the rest of the virtues other parts of man's body come into play and senses intervene, whereas in blessed prayer the mind alone is fully active; thus much effort is needed to incite the mind and to bridle it, in order that the prayer may become fruitful and acceptable. Our most holy Fathers, who loved God in the fullest, had as their chief study uniting with God and remaining continuously in Him; thus they turned all of their efforts to prayer as the most efficient means to this end.

There are other forms of prayer which are known and common to almost all Christians which we will not speak about now; rather we will limit ourselves to that which is called "noetic prayer", which we are always being asked about. It is a subject that engages the multitude of the faithful since next to nothing is known regarding it, and it is often misconstrued and described rather fantastically. The precise way of putting it into practice as well as the results of this deifying virtue, which leads from purification to sanctification, we will leave for the Fathers to tell. We paupers will only mention those things which are sufficient to clarify the matter and to convince our brethren living in the world that they need to occupy themselves with the prayer.

The Fathers call it noetic because it is done with the mind, the "nous", but they also call it "sober watchfulness" which means nearly the same thing. Our Fathers describe the mind as a free and inquiring being which does not tolerate confinement and is not persuaded by that which it can't conceive on its own. Primarily for this reason they selected just a few words in a single, simple prayer, "Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me", so that the mind would not require a great effort in order to hold on to a long, protracted prayer. Secondly, they turned the mind within, to the center of our reason, where it resides motionless with the meaning of the divine invocation of the most sweet Name of our Lord Jesus, in order to experience as soon as possible the divine consolation. It is impossible, according to the Fathers, for our all-good Master, being thus called upon continuously, not to hear us, He Who desires so much the salvation of men.

Just as a natural virtue that is aspired to can only be achieved by the conducive means, so also this holy work requires some nearly indispensable rudiments: a degree of quiet; freedom from cares; avoidance of learning about and spreading the "news" of things going on, the "giving and taking" as the Fathers put it; self discipline in all things; and an overall silence which stems from these things. Moreover, I don't think this persistence and habit will be unattainable for devout people who take an interest in this holy activity. The good habit of a regular prayer time, morning and evening, always about the same time, would be a good beginning.

With surety we have emphasized perseverance as the most indispensable element in prayer. Rightly it is stressed by St. Paul, "Continue steadfastly in prayer."(Col. 4:2) In contrast to the rest of the virtues, prayer requires effort throughout our entire lifetime, and for this reason I repeat to those who are making the attempt not to feel encumbered, nor to consider the need for endurance as a failure in this sober-minded work.

In the beginning it is necessary to say the prayer in a whisper, or even louder when confronted by duress and inner resistance. When this good habit is achieved to the point that the prayer may be sustained and said with ease, then we can turn inwardly with complete outer silence. In the first part of the little book (Way of the Pilgrim) a good example is given of the initiation into the prayer. Sound persistence and effort, always with the same words of the prayer not being frequently altered, will give birth to a good habit. This will bring control of the mind, at which time the presence of Grace will be manifested.

Just as every virtue has a corresponding result, so also prayer has as a result the purification of the mind and enlightenment. It arrives at the highest and perfect good, union with God; that is to say, actual divinization (theosis). However, the Fathers also have this to say: that it lies with man to seek and strive to enter the way which leads to the city; and if by chance he doesn't arrive at the endpoint, not having kept pace for whatever reason, God will number him with those who finished. To make myself more clear, especially on the subject of prayer, I will explain how all of us Christians must strive in prayer, particularly in that which is called monological or noetic prayer. If one arrives at such prayer he will find much profit.

By the presence of the Jesus Prayer man is not given over to temptation which he is expecting, because its presence is sober watchfulness and its essence is prayer; therefore "the one who watches and prays does not enter into temptation." (cf. Matt. 26:41) Further, he is not given over to darkness of mind so as to become irrational and err in his judgments and decisions. He does not fall into indolence and negligence, which are the basis of many evils. Moreover, he is not overcome by passions and indulgences where he is weak, and particularly when the causes of sin are near at hand. On the contrary his zeal and devotion increase. He becomes eager for good works. He becomes meek and forgiving. He grows from day to day in his faith and love for Christ and this inflames him towards all the virtues. We have many examples in our own day of people, and particularly of young people, who with the good habit of doing the prayer have been saved from frightful dangers, from falls into great evils, or from symptoms leading toward spiritual death.

Consequently, the prayer is a duty for each one of the faithful, of every age, nationality, and status; without regard to place, time or manner. With the prayer divine Grace becomes active and provides solutions to problems and trials which trouble the faithful, so that, according to the Scriptures, "Everyone that calls on the Lord shall be saved." (Acts 2:21)

There is no danger of delusion, as is bandied about by a few unknowledgeable people, as long as the prayer is said in a simple and humble manner. It is of the utmost importance that when the prayer is being said no image at all be portrayed in the mind; neither of our Lord Christ in any form whatever, nor of the Lady Theotokos, nor of any other person or depiction. By means of the image the mind is scattered. Likewise, by means of images the entrance for thoughts and delusions is created. The mind should remain in the meaning of the words, and with much humility the person should await divine mercy. The chance imaginations, lights, or movements, as well as noises and disturbances are unacceptable as diabolic machinations towards obstruction and deception. The manner in which Grace is manifested to initiates is by spiritual joy, by quiet and joy-producing tears, or by a peaceful and awe-inspiring fear due to the remembrance of sins, thus leading to an increase of mourning and lamentation.

Gradually Grace becomes the sense of the love of Christ, at which time the roving about of the mind ceases completely and the heart becomes so warmed in the love of Christ that it thinks it can bear no more. Still at other times one thinks and desires to remain forever exactly as one finds oneself, not seeking to see or hear anything else. All of these things, as well as various other forms of aid and comfort, are found in the initial stages by as many as try to say and maintain the prayer, in as much as it depends on them and is possible. Up to this stage, which is so simple, I think that every soul that is baptized and lives in an Orthodox manner should be able to put this into practice and to stand in this spiritual delight and joy, having at the same time the divine protection and help in all its actions and activities.

I repeat once again my exhortation to all who love God and their salvation not to put off trying this good labor and practice for the sake of the Grace and mercy which it holds out to as many as will strive a bit at this work. I say this to them for courage, that they don't hesitate or become fainthearted due to the bit of resistance or weariness which they will encounter. Contemporary elders that we have known had many disciples living in the world, men and women, married and single, who not only arrived at the beginning state but rose to higher levels through the Grace and compassion of our Christ. "It is a trifle in the eyes of the Lord to make a poor man rich." (Sir. 11:23) I think that in today's chaos of such turmoil, denial and unbelief there exists no simpler and easier spiritual practice that is feasible for almost all people, with such a multitude of benefit and opportunity for success, than this small prayer.

Whenever one is seated, moving about, or working, and if need be even in bed, and generally wherever and however one finds oneself, one can say this little prayer which contains within itself faith, confession, invocation and hope. With such little labor and insignificant effort the universal command to "pray without ceasing" (1 Thes. 5:17) is fulfilled to perfection. To whatever word of our Fathers one might turn, or even in their wonderful lives, he will encounter hardly any other virtue given so much praise or applied with such zeal and persistence, so that it alone constitutes the most powerful means of our success in Christ. It is not our intention to sing the praises of this queen of virtues, or to describe it, because whatever we might say would instead rather diminish it. Our aim is to exhort and encourage every believer in the working of the prayer. Afterwards, each person will learn from his own experience what we have said so poorly.

Press forward you who are doubtful, you who are despondent, you who are distressed, you who are in ignorance, you of little faith, and you who are suffering trials of various kinds; forward to consolation and to the solution to your problems. Our sweet Jesus Christ, our Life, has proclaimed to us that "without Me you can do nothing." (Jn. 15:5) Thus behold that, calling upon Him continuously, we are never alone; and consequently "we can and will do all things through Him." (cf Phil. 4:13) Behold the correct meaning and application of the significant saying of the Scripture, "Call upon Me in your day of trouble and I will deliver you, and you shall glorify Me." (Ps. 49(50):15) Let us call upon His all-holy Name not only "in the day of trouble" but continuously; so that our minds may be enlightened, that we might not enter into temptation. If anyone desires to step even higher where all-holy Grace will draw him, he will pass through this beginning point, and will be "spoken to" regarding Him, when he arrives there.

As an epilogue to that which has been written we repeat our exhortation, or rather our encouragement, to all the faithful that it is possible and it is vital that they occupy themselves with the prayer, "Lord Jesus Christ, have mercy on me", the so-called "noetic prayer", with a sure faith that they will benefit greatly regardless of what level they may reach. The remembrance of death and a humble attitude, together with the other helpful things that we have mentioned, guarantee success through the grace of Christ, the invocation of Whom will be the aim of this virtuous occupation. Amen.


Elder Joseph of Vatopaidi (Spiritual Child of Elder Joseph the Hesychast)
 
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Η Λιτανεία στον Άγιο Λουκά στην Κριμαία (2015)

Jesus’ Power Point Presentation

1. Blessed, are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the Kingdom of Heaven.

We must overcome our pride and become humble. Learn to not to put our priority in the pleasure we derive from the material things of this world but aim for a life of virtue. Gregory of Nyssa says the one who is poor of spirit is He who is given the riches of the soul in exchange for material wealth, who is poor for the sake of the spirit. He has shaken off earthly riches like a burden so that he may be lightly lifted into the air and be borne upwards…


2. Blessed are the meek for they shall inherit the earth.

To become meek we need to develop self-discipline so we can control our passions and remain calm even in the face of wrath. This requires the humility gained from the first Beatitude.


3. Blessed are they that mourn, for they shall be comforted.

We are to mourn after the Goodness we do not yet know, the joy of eternal life with God. This gives us the desire to seek to perfect ourselves. As we mourn for what we do not yet have, God will comfort us and help us to become worthy.


4. Blessed are they that hunger and thirst after justice, for they shall have their fill.

The justice we must hunger for is our salvation, which is available equally to all. This requires a keen discernment of God’s will coupled with the discipline to act on it instead of our earthly passions. We hunger for all the virtues.


5. Blessed are the merciful, for they shall obtain mercy.

To become merciful we need to have a voluntary sorrow that joins itself to the suffering of others. Our own mercy may come at the time of our Final Judgment.


6. Blessed are the clean of heart, for they shall see God.

When we purify our heart from all evil thoughts, we find the inner light of God within. Gregory says, you wash off by a good life the filth that has been stuck on your heart like plaster, the Divine Beauty will again shine forth in you. With a pure heart we are able to choose what is virtuous and the light which is within will shine brightly becoming a beacon of goodness for others.


7. Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God.

Peace is essential for a good life. A peacemaker is one who gives peace to others. This involves having a loving disposition to others. To become a peacemaker, we must first have peace within ourselves and a clean heart. Saint Gregory says, I think that man is called a peacemaker par excellence who pacifies perfectly the discord between flesh and spirit in himself and the war that is inherent in nature, so that the law of the body no longer wars against the law of the mind, but is subjected to the higher rule and becomes a servant of the Divine ordinance.


8. Blessed are they that suffer persecution for justice' sake, for theirs is the Kingdom of Heaven.

Once mastering the above, we will be able to endure pain and suffering from those who persecute us for upholding God’s goodness. This leads us to a greater Goodness. God’s grace will transform us and give us strength in such situations helping us see the wisdom in what is not visible. The martyrs of the Church give us vivid examples of this.

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Γιατί παρακαλούμε την Υπεραγία Θεοτόκο ( π.Δαμαινού )

Οἱ παρακλήσεις πρός τή Θεοτόκο ἀναφέρουν τίς ἐπικλήσεις τῶν πιστῶν μέ δεήσεις καί ἱκεσίες πρός τήν Παναγία γιά νά λάβουν τή βοήθειά Της στούς καιρούς τῶν πειρασμῶν, τῶν πόνων, τῶν θλίψεων καί κάθε εἴδους προστασία ἀπό τό θεῖο πρόσωπό Της. Καί τονίζεται χαρακτηριστικά: “Δέξαι παρακλήσεις ἀναξίων σῶν ἱκετῶν”.
Πρῶτον, παρακαλοῦμε τήν Παναγία μέ αἴσθημα πίστεως καί πόνου γιά νά μᾶς βοηθήσει στή ζωή μας ἀπό τούς πειρασμούς, λέγοντάς της: “Πολλοῖς συνεχόμενοις πειρασμοῖς, πρὸς Σὲ καταφεύγω, σωτηρίαν ἐπιζητῶν”. Εἶναι πολλοί οἱ πειρασμοί πού παρασύρουν τόν πιστό στό κακό, στήν ἡδονή, στήν κακία, στήν ἐχθρότητα, στήν περιφρόνηση τοῦ ἀνθρώπου καί τοῦ θελήματος τοῦ Θεοῦ καί τόν ὁδηγοῦν στήν πράξη τῆς ἁμαρτίας. Ὁ πειρασμός εἶναι ὁ προπομπός τῆς ἁμαρτίας γιά νά κλονισθεῖ ἡ πίστη μας καί νά ἀδιαφορήσουμε γιά τίς ἐντολές τοῦ Θεοῦ. Γι’ αὐτό ζητᾶμε ἀπό τό Θεό: “καὶ μὴ εἰσενέγκῃς ἡμᾶς εἰς πειρασμόν” καί ἀπό τήν Παναγία: “Πολλοῖς συνεχόμενος πειρασμοῖς, πρὸς Σὲ καταφεύγω, σωτηρίαν ἐπιζητῶν. Ὦ Μῆτερ τοῦ Λόγου καὶ Παρθένε, τῶν δυσχερῶν καὶ δεινῶν με διάσωσον”.
Δεύτερον, ζητᾶμε ἀπό τήν Παναγία νά μᾶς ἐλευθερώσει ἀπό τά πάθη μας: “Παθῶν με ταράττουσι προσβολαί, πολλῆς ἀθυμίας ἐμπιπλῶσαί μου τὴν ψυχήν”. Ὅπως τό πάθος τῆς ὑπερηφανείας, τοῦ θυμοῦ, τῆς ζήλειας, τοῦ φθόνου, τῆς κατακρίσεως, τῆς πολυλογίας, τῆς γαστριμαργίας κ.ἄ. βασανίζουν τήν καρδιά τοῦ ἀνθρώπου καί τήν καθιστοῦν ἀκάθαρτη. Ὁ ἀγώνας τοῦ χριστιανοῦ πρέπει νά εἶναι καθημερινός γιά νά παραμένει ἥσυχος καί γαλήνιος στήν ψυχή του, χωρίς νά τόν καταδικάζει γιά τίποτα ἡ συνείδησή του. Γι’ αὐτό ζητᾶμε νά μᾶς θεραπεύσει τίς ἀσθένειες τῆς ψυχῆς μας λέγοντας: “Ἴασαι ἁγνή, τῶν παθῶν μου τὴν ἀσθένειαν”.
Τρίτον, ζητᾶμε ἀπό τήν Παναγία νά μᾶς ἐλευθερώσει ἀπό τούς κινδύνους τῆς καθημερινῆς ζωῆς μας διά τῆς θείας προστασίας Της, λέγοντάς Της: “Διάσωσον, ἀπὸ κινδύνους τοὺς δούλους Σου Θεοτόκε”. Πολλοί οἱ κίνδυνοι τοῦ ἀνθρώπου πού φέρουν εὔκολα τή συμφορά στή ζωή του. Ἀτυχήματα, ἐπαγγελματικές δυσκολίες, οἰκογενειακές ἀκαταστασίες κ.ἄ. Γι’ αὐτό παρακαλοῦμε τήν Παναγία νά μᾶς λυτρώσει ἀπό τούς κινδύνους μέ τήν προστασία Της καί νά γίνει “πύργος ἀσφαλείας”, “τεῖχος ἀπροσμάχητον”.
Τέταρτον, ζητᾶμε ἀπό τήν Παναγία μέ τίς δεήσεις μας νά μᾶς ἐνισχύσει καί νά μᾶς ἐλευθερώσει ἀπό τίς θλίψεις καί τίς ἀσθένειές μας. “Σοῦ δέομαι τῆς ἀγαθῆς ἐκ φθορᾶς νοσημάτων ἀνάστησον” καί “ἐπίβλεψον, ἐν εὐμενείᾳ πανύμνητε Θεοτόκε, ἐπί τὴν ἐμὴν χαλεπὴν τοῦ σώματος κάκωσιν”. Μέσα στόν πόνο περισσότερο σκεπτώμεθα τό Θεό καί ἀναζητᾶμε τή θεία βοήθειά Του. Νιώθουμε τήν ἀνθρώπινη ἀδυναμία μας καί τήν Παντοδυναμία τοῦ Θεοῦ. Ἐκεῖνος πού δέν ἐπόνεσε πολύ δέν μπορεῖ νά νιώσει τόν πόνο τοῦ ἄλλου. Χρειάζεται ὁ πόνος τῆς ἀσθένειας ἤ τῶν δυσκολιῶν τῆς ζωῆς μας γιά νά αἰσθανθοῦμε τήν ἀνάγκη τοῦ ἄλλου καί νά νιώσουμε ποιοί μᾶς ἀγαποῦν πραγματικά. Ὁ πόνος φέρει τή μετάνοια στόν ἄνθρωπο καί εἶναι ἕνας τρόπος σωτηρίας τῆς ψυχῆς του. Ὁ ἴδιος ὁ Κύριος ἐπόνεσε πάρα πολύ πάνω στό σταυρό καί ἔδειξε τό δρόμο τοῦ πόνου πού λυτρώνει καί ἁγιάζει τόν ἄνθρωπο. Ὁ πόνος νικᾶ τά πάθη τοῦ ἀνθρώπου καί φέρει ἀρετές μέσα στήν ψυχή τοῦ πιστοῦ. Ὁ ἐγωϊστής ταπεινώνεται μέσα στόν πόνο τῆς ἀσθενείας του καί ζητᾶ ή βοήθεια τοῦ Θεοῦ καί τῆς Παναγίας. Μέσα στή δυστυχία τῶν θλίψεών του κατανοεῖ τήν εὐτέλεια τῆς ζωῆς του καί ἀναζητᾶ τήν εὐτυχία κοντά στό Θεό. Ὁ πόνος θεραπεύει ἀδυναμίες καί πάθη πού φθείρουν τήν ψυχή. Ὁ πόνος φέρει τούς ἀνθρώπους πιό κοντά καί ὁ ἕνας παρηγορεῖ τόν ἄλλον καί προσφέρει τή βοήθειά του μέ ἀγάπη καί θυσία. Πολλές φορές ὁ πόνος τῆς καρδιᾶς εἶναι μεγαλύτερος ἀπό τόν πόνο τοῦ σώματος, πού φέρει σέ μεγάλη ἀμηχανία πράξεων μέσα στή θλίψη τῆς ψυχῆς καί μπορεῖ νά εἶναι ἀποτέλεσμα μοναξιᾶς, συκοφαντίας, κακίας, μίσους καί ζήλειας. Γι’ αὐτό ἔχουμε ἀνάγκη νά λέγουμε τόν πόνο μας στόν ἄλλο, γιά νά ξαλαφρώνουμε ψυχικά καί νά ἀναπαυόμαστε κοντά στήν ἀγάπη τοῦ ἄλλου. Καί ἡ Παναγία ἐπόνεσε πολύ ψυχικά γιά τήν ἄδικη κακομεταχείριση καί σταύρωση τοῦ Υἱοῦ Της. Καί γίνεται ἡ προστάτις τῶν θλιβομένων καί ἀδικουμένων, ὅταν τήν παρακαλοῦμε: “Ὑπεραγία Θεοτόκε, σῶσον ἡμᾶς”.
Καί πέμπτον, παρακαλοῦμε τήν Παναγία διά τῆς μεσιτείας στόν Πανάγαθο νά μᾶς ἐξαλείψει τό πλῆθος τῶν ἁμαρτημάτων μας: “Ταῖς τῆς Θεοτόκου πρεσβείαις, ἐλεῆμον, ἐξάλειψον τὰ πλήθη τῶν ἐμῶν ἐγκλημάτων”, δηλ. τά ἁμαρτήματά μας. Παρακαλοῦμε νά μᾶς σώσει διά τῆς θείας βοηθείας Της καί νά μᾶς ὁδηγήσει σέ μετάνοια. Μᾶς προτρέπει ὁ παρακλητικός κανόνας στήν ἀληθινή μετάνοια, στήν ἐξομολόγηση καί τή θεία Κοινωνία. Νά ζήσουμε μιά ζωή μετανοίας, γιά νά μήν μολύνεται ἡ ψυχή μας ἀπό πλῆθος ἁμαρτιῶν. Γι’ αὐτό ἡ ἁμαρτία θεωρεῖται ἔγκλημα γιά τήν ψυχή μας, διότι αὐτή ἀποστατεῖ ἀπό τό θέλημα τοῦ Θεοῦ καί ὁδηγεῖται στό σκοτάδι τοῦ θελήματος τοῦ ἁμαρτωλοῦ κόσμου. Μακρυά ἀπό τό Θεό “ἀπολλύμεθα ὑπὸ πλήθους πταισμάτων”. Ἐκεῖνος πού τιμᾶ ἀληθινά τήν Παναγία δέεται γιά τή σωτηρία τῆς ψυχῆς του καί ζεῖ διαρκῶς ἐν μετανοίᾳ παρακλητικῇ.
Ἡ Παναγία εἶχε πλήρη ἀφιέρωση στό Θεό μέ ζῆλο ὑπερανθρώπινο πού ξεπερνοῦσε τῶν ἀγγέλων τήν ἁγιότητα. Ἆραγε ὁ δικός μας ζῆλος ὁμοιάζει κατά ἕνα μέρος στή διάθεση τῆς Παναγίας; Πόσο ἐπιζητοῦμε τήν ὁμοίωση μέ τήν Παναγία; Πόσο ἑλκυόμεθα ἀπό τήν ταπεινή ζωή Της; Πόσο ἐπιζητοῦμε οἱ ἀρετές Της νά γίνουν δικές μας; Πόσο ἡ δική μας προσευχή ὁμοιάζει μέ τῆς Παναγίας;

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Till death do us apart

Married or not you should read this...

“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!


With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.

Repentance ( Elder Sergei of Vanves )

 

Elder Sergei was born in the Netherlands in 1903. Most of his life was spent in France. His is a spiritual Child of Igumen Chariton the last abbot of Valaam before it was closed by the Communists. He spent his life in a country where there were few Orthodox Christians. His views are most helpful as he spent most of his life counseling spiritual children who lived in our secular Western society.


He taught that repentance was the “beginning, middle, and end of spiritual life.” He distinguished between two kinds of repentance: a) for a specific sin, b) for a general sinful state.


The first kind is most vital. he writes:

“There are three stage towards repentance for specific sins. 1) Repenting of the sin in your mind as soon as it is committed. 2) At the end of the day, when you are doing your examination of conscience, recall the sin and ask God for forgiveness again. 3) Confess the sin and repenting of it when you receive the sacrament of Confession.”
The first stage allows us to obtain forgiveness from God when dealing with our lesser sins and impure thoughts. He says,
“If you have wicked thought and repent it by desiring to think and act otherwise, this sin is erased immediately.”
Elder Sergei put great emphasis on the second stage. We need to make sure to set aside the time to concentrate on repentance at the end of each day. At this time we should undertake a spiritual critique of all that we did during the day reviewing both the evil as well as the good we have not done. After this examination of our conscience we then seek forgiveness from God with sincerity and contrition for all the ways we have been unfaithful to Him. He says,
“We must have a sharp conscience, so that every night we can examine ourselves and what we did during the course of the day and see what we did wrong, what good we failed to do, and what we did poorly. then, we should ask God’s forgiveness for all these things.”“Always keep repenting, not because you have necessarily done something, but because our nature is weak. We must repent for what we are. When we repent, we must consider not just what we have cone wrong, but all the good we have failed to do.”
The third stage, confession before God in the front of a priest, is imperative as it “allows us to avoid remaining psychologically and spiritually burdened by the sins we have committed in the past.”

The second kind of repentance involves our ongoing character. There are many sins were are unaware of. They have become part of our nature. In Confession we must ask God: “Forgive me my sins which I do not know, for all my unconscious sins.” He writes:

” We must also repent of all our failures and insufficiencies. We should not allow ourselves any excuses as there are no external circumstances that can justify our weaknesses.”
Repentance is necessary fro everyone as there is no one without sin. Whoever does not think they are sinful is living in delusion. Repentance is an “inner stance” of the fear of God, remembrance of death, and above all, humility. It is “the key to the spiritual life.” He advises:
“God prefers someone who sins and repents for it to someone who think that he never sins and never repents.”
For those who have not repented in a long time they must ask God for forgiveness for their lack of repentance. God knows our sinful struggle, our condition of mortality, and is forgiving with infinite mercy for those who continually repent. Elder Sergei writes:
“Our attitude towards the Kingdom of Heaven should be like that of a traveler who must not become panicked about all the things he has to do once he arrives at his destination, but must continue on, planning for his current journey. We must realize that we do not know when the train will come that will take us to the Kingdom. to be ready when it comes, we should be like the wise virgins and always have oil in our lamps.”“We must never believe that our sinful state is beyond repair. We must be confident that there is always forgiveness for us. All we need to do to be forgiven is to ask.”
According to Elder Sergei, “repentance as a permanent state is the normal state of the Christian, and is the state of all the saints. We must then strive toward this goal with all our might and all our prayer. It will then reveal itself to us as a might force of spiritual progress. He says,
“Repentance is the key to spiritual life. It allows us to have the wedding garment without which we are cast out of he wedding feast.”

Reference: Elder Sergei of Vanves: Life and Teachings, pp 29-34

Της πνευματικής ζωής τα μυστικά ( Άγιος Παΐσιος )

 Αν καταλάβει κανείς τα μυστικά της πνευματικής ζωής και τον μυστικό τρόπο με τον οποίο εργάζεται ο Θεός, παύει να στεναχωριέται για ό,τι του συμβαίνει, γιατί δέχεται με χαρά τα πικρά φάρμακα που του δίνει ο Θεός για την υγεία της ψυχής του. Όλα τα θεωρεί αποτελέσματα της προσευχής του, αφού ζητάει συνέχεια από τον Θεό να του λευκάνει την ψυχή.
 

Όταν όμως οι άνθρωποι αντιμετωπίζουν τις δοκιμασίες κοσμικά, βασανίζονται. Αφού ο Θεός όλους μας παρακολουθεί, πρέπει να παραδίνεται κανείς εν λευκώ σ' Αυτόν. Αλλιώς είναι βάσανο" ζητάει να του έρθουν όλα, όπως εκείνος θέλει, αλλά δεν του έρχονται όλα όπως τα θέλει, και ανάπαυση δε βρίσκει.
 

Εξαρτάται από το πως αντιμετωπίζει κανείς τις δοκιμασίες. Όσοι δεν έχουν καλή διάθεση, βρίζουν τον Θεό, όταν τους βρίσκουν διάφορες δοκιμασίες. «Γιατί να το πάθω εγώ αυτό; Λένε. Να, ο άλλος έχει τόσα καλά! Θεός είναι αυτός;» Δεν λένε «ήμαρτον», αλλά βασανίζονται.
 

Ενώ οι φιλότιμοι λένε: «Δόξα τω Θεώ! Αυτή η δοκιμασία με έφερε κοντά στον Θεό. Ο Θεός για το καλό μου το έκανε». Και ενώ μπορεί πρώτα να μην πατούσαν καθόλου στην εκκλησία, μετά αρχίζουν να εκκλησιάζονται, να εξομολογούνται, να κοινωνούν.

Πολλές φορές μάλιστα ο Θεός τους πολύ σκληρούς τους φέρνει κάποια στιγμή με μια δοκιμασία σε τέτοιο φιλότιμο, που μόνοι τους παίρνουν μεγάλη στροφή και εξιλεώνονται με τον πόνο που νιώθουν για όσα έκαναν.


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